The Tooth Fairy Lives!

How good would you say you are at listening to your prospect?

Most people I talk to rate themselves pretty highly in this area. Yet most, sad to say, fail the Tooth Fairy Test.

Let's suppose a six-year-old child came to you beaming, with a £1 coin in hand, and said, "Look what the Tooth Fairy left me last night!" And let's suppose that, when you saw that child smile, you noticed there was a gap where a tooth used to be.

What would you say?

If you're like most of the parents we talk to, the odds?are that you wouldn't say this: "Oh no, that wasn't?the Tooth Fairy. There's no such thing as a Tooth Fairy. What happens is that your old tooth gets loose when a new tooth wants to come in, and the old tooth starts to wiggle. Then when it finally comes out, there's a little blood, and that scares children sometimes. ?
So what we grownups do is make up a story to distract you. We tell you that there's a fairy on the way. It's fun, but it's not true. When you're asleep at night, we sneak into your room, move you without waking you up - that's the trickiest part - and we take the tooth. We leave money in its place."

The parent who said that would be a parent who fails the Tooth Fairy Test. But you wouldn't, right?

Of course not. Yet when a prospect says something that you know, as a result of your personal experience and/or your product and service training, to be factually incorrect, how do you respond? Do you instantly correct the prospect? Do you look for a chance to give a detailed answer that shows how smart you are for knowing the "right answer"?

If you've ever done that - even once - then guess what? You failed the Tooth Fairy Test.

David Sandler taught us that the only reliable way to move forward through the sales process is to make sure that the prospect feels OK at all times. There's a very simple reason for this. If the prospect ever doesn't feel OK, we can count on the prospect doing whatever is necessary to remove the source of that not-OK feeling. All too often, that's the person who corrects the prospect.

So let's take it as a given that you know more than the prospect does in your area of expertise. That's wonderful. There's a time and a place to share the relevant product knowledge - but it's certainly not at the very beginning of the relationship, which is where most people manage to fail this test. Instead of correcting every error you hear, treat your new prospect's assumptions the same way you would treat that beaming six-year-old child. Assume, for the time being, that the Tooth Fairy lives! There's plenty of time for solutions later. For now, experiment with "Tooth Fairy" responses like:
• That's an interesting insight.
• What do you think caused that?
• A lot of your counterparts had similar perceptions and experiences. Can I share what happened there?

These kinds of responses will allow you to transition more comfortably into a discussion where you can add information and value. They are far more preferable than telling the prospect, "You're wrong."

If you remind yourself that most people fail the Tooth Fairy Test very early in the sales discussion, you'll probably find yourself becoming more motivated to stand out from the crowd. Ask your next prospect "Tooth Fairy" questions whenever you are tempted to correct an error or set the record straight. You will step out of the spotlight, keep the prospect OK - and keep the lines of communication open.